Stillness makes you live in the moment and have a grateful heart. Sometimes, you need to take a step back in order to move forward
Ever since I got married, my husband and I try our best to travel for our wedding anniversary. Our first trip was to New Orleans (we left with a gift that would take nine months to arrive); our second was to Cape May, New Jersey with our then 3-month-old son; our third anniversary trip doubled as a “babymoon” to a resort in Branson, Missouri. With two kiddos now in the mix (our youngest is 10 months), we made the choice to go to Northern California, where we soaked in the sun, basked in the cool breeze from the salt water, and took advantage of all the endless opportunities to do absolutely nothing.
I must say, this trip was a godsend that came at the perfect time. To say I reconnected with myself would be an understatement.
As a wife and mother, it ain’t easy to take a pause and focus on yourself. There’s always some never-ending list of to-dos, poopy diapers that need changing, needs to be met … and the list goes on and on and on and on. It’s been two years since we left the New York City area for Oklahoma, and as much as I’ve grown to love southern living, I’m constantly asking myself so many questions.
Am I on the right path?
Am I making the best moves for my family?
Where do I see myself heading in the next few years?
(Honestly, what woman or mother hasn’t asked herself these questions? We’re always thinking about something!)
California allowed me to get out of my own head. I was able to take a step back and just live in the moment. No thinking about the following day, what my next career move should be, or what I need to cook as soon as I get home. (Crap, I need to go to the grocery store.) I was still and, more importantly, my mind was at peace.
I found myself running alongside green mountains and vineyards, walking next to the ocean and listening to nothing else but the crashing waves, and biking by the bay. I was unplugged from the rest of the world (well, not counting the pics I posted on Instagram) and in tune with my family.
Being still has allowed me to refocus my energy on what’s important in my life, instead of wasting energy trying to control things that are out of my hands. God has already laid out the blueprint for my life (He has for all of us). It’s my job to focus on and follow Him, not try to whip out a pencil to make edits. I’m going to try and live every day as if it were a Friday. I want to be able to get back to this place of peace that doesn’t require a plane ticket and a sweet Groupon voucher.
I will learn to be thankful for all of my blessings, instead of the things I believe I lack in my life.
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
“Cast your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you.” — Psalm 55:22
I. Will. Learn. To. Be. Still.
Images via Tanvier Peart